Ways to Not Cum Fast and Stay Longer

By Elaine Belcher |
|5 min read

When it comes to matters of the bedroom, timing can either boost the mood or perpetuate a feeling of self-pity and resentment. Trouble often occurs when one partner – especially the man in the relationship – is climaxing faster than the other, making sex less satisfactory. This problem is called premature ejaculation and is often embarrassing and frustrating. In some cases, it can ruin your otherwise stable relationship.

What causes such a dreadful situation of rapid climax to occur? Usually, diseases are not the cause of premature ejaculation, but psychological factors such as anxiety, overexcitement, overstimulation, sexual inexperience, depression, and the feeling of inadequacy.

The list is somewhat longer than the aforementioned causes and can affect all men, including those who previously experienced normal ejaculation. Actually, most of these causes of premature ejaculation are acquired. Only a few are congenital.

But what is the secret of how to not cum fast? What can you do to stay longer in bed? Read more to find out:

How to Not Cum Fast Without Medication

If you are experiencing premature ejaculation, you don't have to worry because there are ways in which you can correct the situation without medical intervention. Some of the ways include:

1. Using the start and stop method

The start and stop method mainly helps the man delay ejaculation by improving his control over when to ejaculate. The strategy is simple: the man or the partner stops the process of stimulation when the man feels like ejaculating – just before he orgasms. When the feeling of an impending orgasm subsides, you can continue with the lovemaking process. The start and stop method may not be effective at the beginning. You may lose control of holding back the orgasm or you may stop the stimulation too late, when you can't hold back the ejaculation anymore, but just let it occur.

2. Using the squeeze method

The squeeze method is somewhat similar to start and stop method, only that this time the man or his partner squeezes the penis gently closer to its tip for roughly 30 seconds. They can then restart stimulation one again. The partners may have to repeat this process until the man cannot hold it anymore or until they are satisfied. This process requires patience and immense practice to master completely.

3. Exercising your PC muscle

Pubococcygeus (PC) muscle plays an important role in keeping the urethra open for urine and semen to flow out. To find out the strength of your PC muscle, try stopping your urine abruptly as you urinate. The muscle is attached between the anus and the sphincter of the urinary bladder. Exercises geared towards strengthening the muscles of the pelvic floor can help strengthen it. Such activities include: yoga, kegels, and pilates. Strengthening your PC muscles gives a better chance of controlling when you ejaculate.

4. Stop having sex for some time

Your premature ejaculation may be due to anxiety, stress, or fatigue. You may need to talk to your partner or seek advice from your doctor to help you stay from sex for some time. Taking a break from sex doesn't mean stopping all aspects of intimacy. You may be involved in other activities that bring pleasure to you and your partner as you take time to calm down from your psychological issue. Once you are calm enough, you can resume having sex with your partner. If it still doesn't work, consider talking to a doctor.

Medications That Can Help You Combat Premature Ejaculation

When the home remedies do not yield any results, you may have to visit a doctor for a prescription to help in managing the condition medically.

1. Antidepressants

Serotonin has been studied and proven to delay ejaculation. It is a biogenic amine neurotransmitter in the brain that has other functions in the body. Antidepressants classified as Selective Serotonin Reuptake Inhibitors (SSRIs) inhibit cellular uptake of serotonin thereby increasing its levels in the extracellular space. This increased serotonin helps in delaying the onset of ejaculation. Most men with premature ejaculation respond well to treatment with SSRIs, save for the side effects that follows treatment with these medications. Though these side effects are not entirely harmful, they can be unpleasant to the man using the medications.

2. Tramadol

Tramadol is an opioid receptor agonist used to manage pain (analgesia). Some studies have shown that it inhibits reuptake of serotonin, just like SSRIs. However, it has not been fully approved as a prescription drug for the management of premature ejaculation. All studies on tramadol have reported an increase in the duration before ejaculation. However, the drug has side effects such as dizziness, somnolence, nausea, vertigo, dyspepsia, headache, and vomiting.

3. Phosphodiesterase 5 inhibitors

These drugs, such as sildenafil, tadalafil, and vardenafil, that are used for erectile dysfunction can also help in managing premature ejaculation. They become more effective for this purpose when used together with SSRIs. Side effects include headache, flushing, and indigestion.

4. Topical anesthetics

Drugs that cause numbness such as lidocaine and prilocaine can also help in managing premature ejaculation. They are applied to the penile shaft about 15 to 10 minutes before sex to delay ejaculation by reducing sensation in the penis. Conveniently, a lidocaine-prilocaine cream for premature ejaculation can be obtained by prescription.


Are you still unsure about how not to cum fast? Do not let your partner depress or frustrate you over a situation that can be managed by both home remedies and medications. If you have tried the non-medical strategies and they still don't work out for you, visit your doctor with your partner to discuss the way forward.



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